Texting is the most convenient form of communication in a long distant relationship. You can just drop a good morning text, let them know you are thinking of them, and share memes and emojis. Everyone pretty much has their phone within arm’s reach all of the time. It’s a private conversation that keeps you connected with your long distance partner all the time. Therefore, it is very important to do it right.
Here are seven texting tips for long distance relationships that will help you.
Don’t get needy:
Don’t text your partner all the time. This may show you off as needy especially if they are not responding as actively as you are. Take time to understand and adjust to both your needs. There is a fine line between asking what you want and demanding them to do what you want.
You can text them that you are missing them. But don’t get angry if they don’t reply fast enough. Wait for their response before you text some more.
Don’t keep fighting with them for not texting back unless you actually feel they are doing it on purpose. Being in different places also mean having different schedules. They must have genuine reasons to not text you back quickly. Understanding them is difficult from a distance but have faith in them. Don’t make them feel that you doubt them.
When you are in a challenging situation in a relationship, you constantly evaluate if it is the worth the effort. And thus your constant nudging could have a negative effect on your long distance relationship.
When you are far away from your partner, it seems like you are losing the flame of the relationship. This can push you apart. To keep the relationship lively and romantic, send them an out of ordinary text, compliment or tease them. It could be as simple as texting them at a different time than usual. It assures them that you care about them and are constantly making effort in this relationship.
Again, the same rule applies though. Make sure you are not the only one doing it and your partner is also interested.
Do not fight on text:
Somehow try to postpone a fight until you can get on phone or Skype or Facetime. Texting is a very impersonal way of communicating and thus it is very easy to misinterpret a text. Usually, when you are talking on phone or video chat, you can read the person’s expressions or tone of voice and understand them better.
Also, texts can be saved. Things said in anger are ugly. Re-reading those things can make the negative thoughts linger in your mind for a longer time.
Good night and good morning texts:
These small words are powerful. A quick and short message to show that you are thinking of your partner. It’s like starting and ending your day with your LDR in mind. It can make your loved one’s day.
Change it up
A video (or snap), a photo, or just a simple emoji might put a smile on your loved one’s face. You can also try texting links to relevant articles or videos that your long distance partner might enjoy. Maybe even start a game for the day? Text only song lyrics each other to describe your day. Text only movie titles to have a conversation. Change your texts up so the communication does not get stale.
As I said, texts can be misinterpreted more often than not. If the message is not clear, don’t assume anything but consider having a detailed discussion about it. If the matter is more sensitive, wait until you meet in person or on video chat. This avoids unnecessary misunderstanding and fights.
Remember the important and unimportant events:
Many times we text and forget what we talked about. Follow up on what’s going on in their lives; big or small like an important presentation or a small party with colleagues. Make them feel that you are interested in their life and what they do is important to you.
Ask them simple things like how was their day or send them a picture of something beautiful you saw. Make them feel more involved in your lives.
Most of the long distance relationship fights occur via text. And it is fast. Think before you text and avoid texting when you are angry. This is a really powerful tool that can enhance or ruin your relationship. Plan meets, send each other gifts or cards, and keep believing in your long distance love.
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